Saturday, August 29, 2015

Saturday Post -- 29/8/15

Today’s post is short and necessarily non-specific, as the curtain comes down on a week in which we were churned head-first through the emotional wringer.

In a nutshell, we came very close to a major adoption-related breakthrough, only to see the prize snatched from our flailing grasp at the last hurdle, owing to a combination of legal hang-ups and a communications failure between the relevant parties at state level. We had been led to believe that everything would be straightforward, making the final blow that little bit crueller.

Those who have followed our ‘progress’ over the years with regard to, say, residency or building a house will perhaps not be all that surprised; and, with hindsight, nor are we. But the emotional investment this time makes this a particularly hard one to take.

However – and this is a big ‘however’ – there is a decent chance that what has happened will prove to be a postponement, rather than a cancellation; we probably can’t say any more than that, but we are still very much in this game.

We would therefore greatly appreciate if you could pray for us over the coming days:
  • For patience.
  • For emotional protection.
  • For our witness around others as we engage in these dealings.
  • For the child God wants for us to surface soon.

We wait in hope for the LORD; He is our help and our shield. (Psalm 33:20)

¡Que Dios les bendiga!

Craig & Amanda

Saturday, August 22, 2015

Saturday Post -- 22/08/2015

Ministry provides frequent opportunities for self-reflection, and I (Amanda) have found myself doing a lot of reflecting this week; so much so that I even thought, I wonder if I could get a blog entry out of all these reflections?!?! Craig then asks me last night if I wanted to switch (grocery shopping for blog writing) and I thought it must be fate... otherwise known as divine intervention. 

I've thought a lot about who I am this week, or maybe even for the last couple of months, and I've come to the conclusion that my personality is quite complex, and that I've inadvertently overcomplicated my life because of that. I am generally a perfectionist, yet at the exact some time I'm a procrastinator and can be quite lazy. This was not a problem for me when I was a kid or in high school, because things generally came easily to me. I could leave things to the last minute and still ace a test or a project. University was a bit harder, which led to learning to cope with intense amounts of stress for the first time in my life. And then life got even harder, because I got married... and then I got a job; from this point I was generally coping. But then ministry came along, and if anything ever held a mirror up to me and said, "take a good look at who you really are", ministry has done that for me. Suddenly I can't get by with procrastinating, yet after 30 years I'm not entirely sure how to live otherwise. Suddenly, laziness doesn't fly, but I don't know how to move faster. I am doing so much more, and my perfectionist nature demands I do everyone perfectly, but doing so much more than I am used to means things are not getting done perfectly. I have discovered that my own personality has set me up for a giant failure; I generally feel underprepared, extremely exhausted and disappointed in my own results. My personal struggles with inadequacy overwhelm me sometimes. 

On top of that, I don't know what I want, or should want. We are on the edge of adopting a child and I have bounced between highly excited and absolutely terrified this week. I am not scared of being a mother necessarily, but I am daunted by the change that is coming. Craig and I have been just the two of us for so long, what do we look like with a child? I have worked in a job for my entire adult life, and probably unhealthily defined myself by what I am doing, as opposed to who I am. If I am not working like I am now, who will I be? Will I recognise myself? These questions paralyse me sometimes. Craig and I were both raised by wonderful women who stayed at home for the formative years of our lives, and we both believe in the importance of a constant parental presence. But I love what I do. I am good at what I do. I believe God has led me to do what I am currently doing. I want to keep working, at least a bit, when we have a child. And yet, should I? I completely love and respect so many full-time mothers...I really do. However, I read blogs and articles, and to be honest, I sometimes feel even more inadequate (see inadequacy issues above) because I feel I should want to be like them, and part of me does, but part of me doesn't. I feel torn most of the time. Sometimes I wonder if we should just keep going the way we are now and not risk the change of adoption, but then I realise that that is my fear talking. We both feel very strongly about the importance of adoption in our personal lives, and in the lives of all Christians. We believe God is calling us to this. So where does this leave me? A big, flustered mess most of the time. 

I'm not entirely sure how I got to this point, but somewhere along the way life has overwhelmed me. I feel like I am always chasing my tail and trying to hide how completely inept I feel all the time. And I am even more frustrated because I know I don't need to feel this way. There is freedom from my inadequacy in Christ. All this week the theme of rest has come back to me over and over again; and not the, 'I need to sleep more' kind, although that would be nice too. The theme of rest in Christ has rung clearly in my ears. I have finally started Vaughan Roberts' 'God's Big Picture' and in chapter one he talks about how we were created to rest in God. God rested on the seventh day and that was supposed to be how things continued from that point. I read aholyexperience.com blog entries from time to time and there was a recent post about resting in God and living in the moment. There have been blog posts on counting our blessings and developing an attitude of peace through gratitude. And I have started a nine day devotional on 'Finding a Work Life Balance', because I know I don't have one, and day one was about how the concept of a work/life balance is not actually biblical. Work, rest, play, sleeping and eating = life. What we see in the life of Jesus are rhythms of work, rest and celebration and all these things add up to life. 

I see the lesson God is trying to teach me, but my frustrating personality keeps getting in the way. Because every time I try to change something it becomes another thing on the to-do list to try and achieve by myself. Resting becomes something to tick off my list once done, not an attitude to apply to my whole life. And to be completely honest, I am not quite sure how to go about changing that quite yet. I am not there. To be fair, due to my extensive self-reflection I can say with confidence that I have identified the problems (1. incorrect perception of the role of rest in my life, 2. unhealthy fixation on my inadequacies), but I don't know how to fix it. How do I rest more without becoming lazy and still be as productive as I need to be? How do I love myself more? How do I live in the light of God's love for me when I can't comprehend truly that He loves me? I know God loves me, but I don't think I let it truly affect how I live. 

These have been my swirling thoughts and struggles this week in the midst of HR work, volunteers leaving (Bye Brittany, Hayley and Juliana), correspondence, youth group meetings, Bible studies, discipleship and good old housework...and when the car wouldn't start and then miraculously did again. Craig has been a solid rock this week as he's helped me cope with, let's be honest, slightly hormonal ravings and some tears. But life keeps going regardless of one's inward struggles and we have both seen many blessings this week and are grateful to God for the all the ways He upholds us. 

Prayer
  • Wisdom for Craig in his role as a leader of our church. This coming Wednesday is the next leader's meeting and they will be dealing with some logistical as well as personal issues in our church.
  • Hayley, Brittany and Juliana as they settle back into University life in Seattle. 
  • Patience as we wait on God's timing for a child.
  • Peace in Amanda's life as she works through a lot of the above struggles.
  • Craig as he preaches tomorrow on 1 Kings 8:54 - 9:9.
Praise
  • For the time we spent getting to now the three volunteers from the States. We are grateful for their friendship and efforts they showed here while working with us.
  • For the encouragement that the Dig Deeper study has been in the church.
¡Que Dios les bendiga!

Craig and Amanda

Saturday, August 15, 2015

Saturday Post -- 15/08/15

Amanda in mid-potato-peel last night, getting ready for the big food-sale
fundraiser for the church's AWANA children's group this lunchtime.
As iron sharpens iron,
    so one person sharpens another.
Proverbs 27:17

Looking back over the last seven days, iron-sharpening has certainly been the order of the week for me (Craig), both in my formal and informal ministry.

Having not managed to meet up with any of my discipleship charges the first couple of weeks back (in the first week Amanda and I were finding our feet again; in the second the independence day holiday and its attendant festivities got in the way), it was a joy to start where I'd left off with all four guys: Diego (19), Daniel (16), Yonatán (18) and Daniel (26). You may remember that the younger Daniel and Yonatán are serving in the youth group this year, Diego is Daniel's older brother and the erstwhile piano-player in the church music group, and the elder Daniel hails from Cuba, and is married to FT doctor Romina. All four guys face a varied set of challenges in their day-to-day lives, so it's important that they get a wider perspective on things once a week. To do that, I've been working through Vaughan Roberts' God's Big Picture with all four, a book that certainly raises the affections to things of God.

These days, I have a couple of bonus one-on-one appointments in my working week owing to the presence of volunteers Tom and Josh. Now about halfway into their two-month stint here, the brothers have demonstrated real maturity in their servant-like attitudes and the time they are taking while here to go deeper into God's word. Though usually (indeed, inevitably!) younger than ourselves, it's amazing how often God uses visiting volunteers to challenge our own way of doing things, and that's certainly been the case with the brothers Pike.

Last night (Friday), I made an appearance at the church men's group, and at the previous meeting, one of the guys had randomly asked when we could get together to watch The Godfather (a picture for which, if you've known me for five minutes, you'll be aware I have abiding affection). So an impromptu screening was arranged at our house mid-week, and I looked on with no shortage of envy as five blokes were acquainted for the first time with equine heads, taking the cannoli, and another invaluable contribution to the infant baptism debate. 

Just as pleasing -- and almost certainly more edifying -- was my FaceTime session the following evening with Alex Wann, our old friend from Wyoming who was here a couple of years ago with Samaritan's Purse, and is now based out in La Paz. In the end, our time in Trinidad overlapped by only four months, but he arrived at a point where I was seriously lacking male fellowship. He and I have kept in regular contact since, including those occasional -- but really valuable -- audio sessions. Alex is due to be in Bolivia for at least another year, and we'd love to get out and see him before he moves on.

Quite a catch.
And as if things couldn't have got any more testosterone-fuelled...I even managed to sneak in a few hours' fishing on my birthday (Monday) with my younger friends from Cochabamba, who are visiting for the university break. Being my birthday, Amanda even made an appearance. A good job, too; that was about the last time I saw her this week. And I suppose things will be necessarily equalised this week. I'm guessing next week's movie night will be more along the lines of Pride & Prejudice (the BBC one, naturally). Brood, Colin. Brood.

Prayer
  • A potential adoption lead fell through this week. We continue to hear rumours and counter-rumours. Pray for patience, and for readiness when the moment comes.
  • Amanda has had a fairly testing week in her HR role at the Foundation. Pray for abundant supplies of grace there.
  • We had the opportunity to touch base with Andrew and Ruth Richards (UK), who will be joining us in October to run a marriage course (watch this space). Please pray for us as we prepare for that important week from both sides of the Atlantic.
  • For increased maturity and love for the Lord for the various men with whom Craig is working -- and, indeed, for Craig himself!
  • Craig is preaching again on 1 Kings 8:22-53 tomorrow morning...
  • ...and Amanda is taking the youth meeting tonight, where they've recently begun a new series working through The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe (a relatively unknown text here).
  • The American trio of volunteers leave Trinidad on Monday evening; pray for safe travels back to Seattle.
Praise
  • For many opportunities for mutual encouragement this week, for both of us.
¡Que Dios les bendiga!

Craig & Amanda

Saturday, August 8, 2015

Saturday Post -- 8/8/15

No, not our canoe, but they were just lying around for the use of whoever
needed them. See 'Simplicity', below.
I can still remember the first time like it was yesterday. And boy, did I not enjoy it.

It was the very last morning of my first stint in Trinidad 15 years ago. My roommate and I had been asked a few days earlier if we there were any final items we’d hoped to tick off our checklist before heading home. Strangely, despite having lived in the Beni for almost a year, we had not yet been fishing, something of an aberration given the quality and quantity of the rivers which criss-cross the region.

Despite being July (the peak of the so-called ‘dry season’), we woke up that morning to the heaviest of downpours, which was not to abate (so much so that the afternoon saw another better-late-than-never moment, as I paid my first visit to a local dry-cleaners’ in a last-ditch attempt to get my sodden clothes in a suitable state for travel). For reasons I cannot now remember, our Bolivian companions reckoned our best chance of success was to be had by standing waist-deep in the river at which we eventually settled. Seemingly, piranhas don’t care one jot for limbs – it’s your digits they’re really after. Which explained the impassioned shrieks of “¡No! ¡No!” when I absentmindedly sought to recover some bait I’d dropped in the water.

Wet and miserable, we made it back to Trinidad, and I doubt we snared more than ten of the blighters between us (well, it sounds better than confessing that I personally caught none!). The smaller-than-expected breakfast was enjoyable enough, but by that point, I’d have been happy to leave any future fishing expeditions to the experts.

In fact, my piranha-yanking days had only just begun. For I was to return to live in Trinidad many years later, wife in tow, only to discover that most of the people we were getting friendly with were ardent fisher-folk. Indeed, indulging in the pastime is something of an inevitability here, given the general lack of recreational activities, and the aforementioned range of local rivers; quite frankly, I’m now somewhat staggered that I somehow went the whole of that first year without a fishing trip.

Nowadays, fishing is one of those things for me like washing my golf clubs or reading a copy of The Economist on a long-haul flight: I don’t tend to experience it all that much, but when I do, I seriously wonder why I don’t do it more.

Thursday's well-chosen spot.
Well, Thursday’s Bolivian independence day taking place in early August (i.e., with things still relatively arid and, in turn, the rivers at their most accessible), there was only one way I and a bunch of friends were going to spend our day off, in which the reminders of the joys of this very Beniano of pursuits came thick and fast.

The Economics

Permits? Schmermits! The local waterways give totally unrestricted access to whoever gets there first. Hook, line and sinkers can be acquired for under a tenner (rods are an unnecessary extravagance). And the bait comes – only, ever and always – in the form of beef, as plentiful in this corner of the world as the rain is in mine. 80p got me a more-than-sufficient quarter-kilo.

The Drive

With no need to go too far to find good casting here, even your fuel costs are relatively meagre. That said, there’s no harm in going that extra distance, as we did as the sun rose on Thursday. And to do so at that particular time of day – the best for fishing – is to buy a ticket to the nature show. And as there’s so little variety in the local foliage (it’s essentially a case of identifying the various shades of green), the golden hours are particularly vital for getting a different angle on plant-life here.

Not only that, but in the relatively shady conditions of those early daylight hours, the wildlife round these parts is usually making the most of things – even by the side of the road. And so, as well as the usual range of exotic birds, the capybaras and alligators out on their morning rounds became so ubiquitous that we eventually stopped pointing them out.

The Camaraderie/Tranquillity

The shared pursuit of that day’s lunch has a knack of bringing one’s companions together. Good-natured banter thus abounds by the shoreline. That said, with each member of the party necessarily making plenty of space for their neighbour, and minds concentrated on the task ahead, occasional solitude-seekers such as myself needn’t look far for occasional bouts of alone-time. It is at such moments, again, that nature takes centre stage (well, the audio version at least).

Happily, our old friend David McColl (right) was paying a flying visit
to Trinidad, before he finally leaves Bolivia next Friday.
The Glorious Simplicity Of It All!

Swing. Hurl. Plop. Bite. Yank for one’s life. OK, it doesn’t always work out that way, but if you manage to tap into a particularly rich vein round these parts, as we did on Thursday, then the blame for any failure to pull in a haul for the ages lies squarely at the feet of the angler in question (needless to say, I finished bottom of the rankings having barely made double-figures – the horror!).

Lunch

They say that, as a race, the greater the disconnect between our work and its tangible rewards has grown, the less contented we have become. I don’t know about that, but there can be few things more satisfying than shrieking, “Honey, I’m home!”, dumping the fruit of one’s labour (dare I call it that?) on the table, and savouring the day’s big meal. (As it happens, Amanda leaves the cooking to the community’s piscatorial cooking experts – typically, the morning’s participants will sample the catch as a group – but the results remain well worth the wait!)

Alan in mid-gut.
And the piranhas themselves? Keep your hands in your pockets and you’ll be just fine.

Prayer
  • After a few days of readjustment to Trinidad, things are moving again on the prospective adoption. Now that we are registered, we are free to investigate any potential leads that might come up – and have been doing so already. Pray for wisdom and guidance from the LORD.
  • Keep Craig in your prayers as he continues to preach this month – tomorrow it’s 1 Kings 8:1-21.
  • Amanda and I have been involved in the volunteer programme this year, and Americans Haley, Brittany and Juliana, who arrived for a two-month stint in June, are coming into their last week here. Pray for a meaningful final few days.

 Praise
  • For the rest afforded by Thursday’s day off.

¡Que Dios les bendiga!

Craig & Amanda

Saturday, August 1, 2015

Saturday Post -- 01/08/15

Amanda with the other youth group leaders last Saturday night.

July, she will fly.

I shan't go into too much detail here with regard to our all-too-fleeting return to Scotland, our Facebook pages certainly providing more than enough photographic documentation. Suffice it to say, Willows were Stripped, putts were missed, and just as one sister flew the nest, another was flying into Glasgow Airport. In the week preceding the wedding, we managed to squeeze in 13 separate catch-ups over six days. Before touchdown in Scotland, we had been very much aware of our limited time; by the time we collapsed into bed on wedding's eve, we were all too aware of our limitations in general. We probably overstretched ourselves, but each meeting proved well worth it.

Writing from a dependably hot and sticky Trinidad, the whole trip already feels somewhat surreal and distant. The final goodbyes at the airport are naturally times of great sadness; this time was relatively Kleenex-free, as there was a tangible acceptance by all concerned that it was high time to return to normality. Our sojourn having been so brief, we felt none of the nerves that gripped us at the end of our 13-month sabbatical in January, just thankfulness for the opportunity to have spent any time at home at all.

Since arriving in Trinidad on Saturday, we have endeavoured to ease our way back into things ever so gradually, but only to the extent possible with a full complement of volunteers. About a week before our own return to Bolivia, Swindon's Tom and Josh Pike arrived in town, with the American trio only halfway through their own stint at that point (they leave in mid-August). Amanda has been sharing responsibility with KC for this summer's volunteer programme, and so with KC's enforced family trip to Cochabamba this week (this post is increasingly resembling an arrivals/departures board), we picked up the volunteer slack as a couple; only fair, I suppose, given KC was essentially flying solo for three weeks. That essentially meant ensuring they had enough food supplies, having them round to the house, and dealing with requests for British chocolate on a case-by-case basis.

Tom and Josh are on the right, for the avoidance of doubt.
Most importantly, we were tasked with meeting with the volunteers individually, which Amanda will continue to do with one of the girls, and I shall, of course, be touching base with Tom and Josh during the remainder of their time here. My initial meetings were certainly encouraging, as the brothers each shared their testimonies (which I reciprocated), and I was reassured to discover rock-solid faith in ones so young.

My very first encounter with the Pikes (they used to get a lot of "Don't tell him" references at school -- see below, non-Brits) took place at the youth group's second annual friendship gala, taking place to mark International Day of Friendship (which, like most Hallmark holidays, is a surprisingly big deal here). The evening essentially resembled the usual youth group meeting, except it was a dress-up affair, food was served, it was double the length, and we had about double the attendance! Despite being a tad bleary-eyed from our journey (we'd only just arrived that morning), we had a great time, and we're hoping that a lot of the 'strays' who came back will still be around in the coming Saturdays.

That aside, it was a reassuringly normal working week, with Amanda catching up on HR tasks, and I getting warmed up for a month in which I have responsibility both for preaching in the church and the morning devotions at FT. 

It's as if we never left.

Prayer
  • For Craig as he preaches and teaches all this month.
  • For the adoption process. Things necessarily took a bit of a back seat this week, but we're planning on pestering our lawyer as to the next steps in the next few days.
  • For our pentad of volunteers, that their remaining time here would be one of great growth in Christ.
Praise
  • For a hearty supply of happy memories from our time in Scotland, and safe travels there and back again.
  • For a great night with the youth group last Saturday.

¡Que Dios les bendiga!

Craig & Amanda

Saturday, June 27, 2015

Saturday Post -- 27/06/15

Amanda with her trusty staff.
This being our last working week before heading back to the old country, things have been pretty manic. Indeed, two days away from leaving, our to-do list doesn't seem to be getting any shorter. Nonetheless, there have been a couple of highlights.

Before all of that, though, to the question that is on the tip of everyone's tongue: what about Ringo? Well, we have some cracking news. Though no small yolk to bear, we are delighted to inform you that we delivered him, intact, to social services (and no, before you ask, we didn't at any time shell out for a replacement). Gallingly, the psychologist, the very picture of solemnity a week previously, barely batted an eyelid as we marched into her office and triumphantly placed our pride and joy on the desk. And these are the people we entrust with our children?!?!?

Ringo's return brought the curtain down on a week of daily visits to social services, where we submitted ourselves to a series of interviews and psychological evaluations, answering such searching questions as, "When do you feel most powerful?", "What do you fear most in life?" and "Which animal would you most like to be?" (a whale, of course). We were even paid a visit at the house one afternoon, so that they could get a feel for the prospective child's surroundings (amazingly, there was no comment on the current lack of a bannister on a lower section of our stairs -- tiled flooring and all). 

We managed to get through the week unscathed, meaning that we will now be recommended to the judge as potential adoptive parents. There are one or two legal processes to deal with when we return here in late July and, assuming they go smoothly, it will be a case of waiting for a child to be offered to us through social services, while also keeping our ears to the ground for any possible unwanted pregnancies; indeed, an advantage of Trinidad's small-town mentality is that word tends to get around fairly quickly. In short, we might have to get that bannister installed sooner rather than later.

Earlier on Friday, we had something of an appropriate ending to our first 'semester' back at Fundación Totaí. While, once again, we have found ourselves with our fingers in oh so many pies (the best laid plans o' mice and men...), in general my prime focus has been on the church, while Amanda has chosen to concentrate on the personnel side of things at FT. You will know that Amanda has already been involved in planning special events such as the 'Pray for Fundación Totaí' evening, and has met regularly with individual staff members to minister to them. 

And yesterday morning, for the first time, we put up the 'closed' signs and devoted the whole morning exclusively to the staff, with breakfast served, team-building games played, and a half-hour slot in which you were to sit with a randomly-assigned member of the personnel and get to know them to the extent that you could answer a series of 'Mr & Mrs'-style questions by the end of the morning.

An added bonus was the visit of some contacts from the local deaf school, who gave an 'introductory' sign-language lesson (an important skill, particularly for the medical staff who work with many patients with hearing disabilities). What's with the inverted commas? Well, straight after the likes of 'Hello' and 'How are you?', our teachers reckoned the next natural step was, er, the human reproductive organs! And let's just say that, unusually for beginners in sign language, most people had guessed the correct words for each sign from the word 'go'! My advice would be to not ask questions and to file that one under 'Only in Bolivia'. 

Still, we reckon it was a most beneficial morning for all involved, and a really good way to say 'chau' to our 9-5 friends before getting out of here for a few weeks. And yet another confirmation of the Lord's will, as revealed to us during our sabbatical year. Indeed, now would probably be as good a time as any to look back on these past six months and reflect on the legion ways in which our calling has been further confirmed. 

Well, tough cookies. I have far too much packing to do. See you in August!

Prayer
  • The road home, as you'll already be aware, is long and winding, and particularly drawn out this time. This time we're driving to Santa Cruz on Monday, probably leaving around 5am and getting there early afternoon (our car has an issue with the steering that needs looked at, and in this motorcycle-heavy town, few people are qualified to address it; we're taking it to a trusted contact in the big smoke, who will return it to Trinidad later in the week). On Wednesday morning we fly to Sao Paulo (Amanda will be on her Irish visa this time!) and then, on Thursday evening, we head to Frankfurt, where we will have to spend most of Friday before our flight to Edinburgh. Pray for safety and patience.
  • Pray for Craig, who has one last sermon to deliver on Sunday morning (1 Kings 3).

Praise
  • For big progress this week on adopting.
  • For yesterday morning's event at FT.
  • For a really encouraging six months back here (and, in all seriousness, if you're looking for highlights, you've come to the right webpage). 
"Don't you forget a-bow-wow-t me."
Finally, though our time in Scotland is limited, we will be giving a report at Shettleston New next Sunday (5th of July, 11am), and then two weeks later at Strathaven Evangelical Church (19th of July, 11am). Would be great to see you if you can make it.

¡Que Dios les bendiga!

Craig & Amanda

Saturday, June 20, 2015

Saturday Post - 20/06/2015

This week has been quite exciting!!! Earlier in the month we received the notice from the local Judge that our request to be adoptive parents was approved and that we could now proceed to Social Services to start all the testing and evaluations. Yay! This was great news, until we realised that, once again, they had spelt Craig's name wrong on the paper. You see, no one here believes that Craig knows how to spell his own name. They see CRAIG and they think he must have meant to write GRAIG, or if they only hear his name they think his name must be GRAY. It has been a source of frustration for us during every stage of paperwork we have ever done in Bolivia. Bolivians are more likely to get our surname right than they are to get his first name right. So, our lawyer had to go back to the Judge's office and request the paper be rewritten. Sigh...

We waited on this for about a week and a half and on Tuesday this week we finally picked up the paperwork, having clearly convinced the Judge that Craig knows how to spell his own name. Maybe this was some type of suitability for parenting test? I think we passed. So on Thursday we arrived at Social Services and met with the Psychologist, named Gabriella, who was really pleasant and who spoke in a really soft and reassuring voice, maybe worried that she might scare us away otherwise. She first congratulated us on the decision to become adoptive parents and talked through the legal process that we needed to go through with various people in the Social Services offices. It was all quite encouraging and exciting and it really started to feel like we were making progress. We were told we would need to undergo psych and medical evals, a social work home visit and a parenting course (which is apparently new since KC and Maicol adopted Caleb). We were to return the next day for our medical evaluations and for the time table of all our other appointments.

I was worried that the whole process would take at least a month if not longer, and I was worried that our absence while in Scotland for the upcoming family wedding, would throw a spanner in the works, but thankfully not. We arrived yesterday morning and met with Gabriella again who assured us we could have everything all done by this coming Friday before we leave. So, every afternoon this coming week we are in Social Services having some sort of evaluation or parenting class for an hour or two.

So we now had our schedules and we were expecting to be passed on the doctor for the medical exam when Gabriella pulls two eggs out of her desk drawer and she says that we should each take one. We both just grabbed the closest one to us, not quite knowing where she was going with this. Then she asked us to return the eggs to her... okay... so we do. Then she puts both eggs on the desk next to each other and says, "Now you have to pick one egg between the two of you." We both just kind of stare at her, still not sure where she is going with this. I say, "Can we talk to each other about it?", thinking it might be some kind of trick or game. She assures us we can, so I look at Craig and he says, "I want the darker one", and I say, "Sure...". If this was some psych test to see how we make decisions I don't know if it worked... I mean it was an egg. When it comes to deciding if we are going to adopt a specific child or not, we are going to have more of a conversation than we did with the egg. I am not going to fight about which egg I wanted; I didn't particularly want one egg more than the other. Craig expressed an opinion, so we went with it. Hmmm... Does that say something about us? Should I be worried I am too passive in our relationship? Maybe I really did want the lighter coloured egg and I let the opportunity pass me by? Then I think... nahhh... Amanda does not equal passive. So Craig picks up the darker of the two eggs and now we have a new member of our family.
I would like to introduce you to Ringo Starr!
We were told that we have to look after this egg for the whole week. The only rule was that we couldn't leave it behind in the house if no one was home, but it was up to us how we divided the care of Ringo (I picked the name... Ringo Starr was recently the answer to two different questions in Trivia Crack that I got right, so the honour was passed on to our new addition). Gabriella told us that I could look after it all the time or we could share the responsibility. My following thought was, "Is Craig looking after it all the time an option or is that notion still too modern for here?" I think both of us at this point are thinking that this might be some sort of joke, but apparently not. Craig says his first reaction when we realised she was serious was, "I'm 32!". Mine was, "I wish in high school I took Home Ec where they had those programmed dolls, instead of taking Shop Class where I made CD holders and wooden pens". After everyone finally deciding that this was all really happening, we were taken through to see the doctor. 

The medical exam was dead easy... I explained that I've been diagnosed with infertility, which caused him to exclaim, "Great... approved." He essentially took our blood pressure and pulse as a formality and checked that we didn't currently have diabetes or high blood pressure, though due to my family history I am sure both are coming my way in the future (not that he asked about family medical history). He said that it's a good thing that we can't have our own kids because we wouldn't want to mix biological and adopted children. We just smiled and nodded, internally thinking that that is blatantly not true. Sure, its a concern that every family should consider, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with having biological and adopted children together. The doctor went on to ask about our egg, as he was clearly not informed as to this new method of psychological testing. He asked if we were carrying it around for luck... ummm, no... that would be very un-missionary like of us. We explained how we had to look after Ringo (though we didn't confess to the doctor that we had named it), and he couldn't quite believe we were serious either. He ended the consult with, "Good luck with the egg, if it was me, I'd eat it." 

At some point that morning I expressed to Craig that there was no way I was looking after this egg myself, which he agreed to of course. If he had disagreed he would have gotten to see how non-passive I can really be. We very quickly figured out who was going to take care of the egg at what time. Essentially the person who is in the situation where the egg is least likely to break gets custody at any specific moment in time. For example, Craig went fishing this morning with the Men's Ministry, I went to the Youth Group Leader's prayer meeting. Fishing vs. praying... yup, I got custody of Ringo this morning. We were, however, in a bit of a pickle yesterday evening when we went to the stadium. Craig went to run laps and I went to walk laps... but what to do with Ringo? Sadly, Ringo was left in the car as it was deemed the safest place for him. I would like to expressly state that Craig and I know that you cannot leave children locked in a car with the windows up. We know you can't do that to children; you can, however, do that with eggs. Also, this morning I had to do the grocery shopping and I again left Ringo in the car when I went into the various shops. This time I was more concerned that they would accuse me of theft when I tried to leave the store without paying for the egg. I'm not sure if we're breaking Gabriella's rules or not, but I think some flexibility is warranted; we are both mature adults who have full-time jobs and extra-curriculars. We do understand a child will change our schedules and priorities, but we both think an egg should not. 

So that is our how family of two humans and two dogs, became a family of two humans, two dogs and an egg. But only for a week... I hope. I mean, I'm not entirely sure Ringo is even hardboiled. 

Craig is speaking tonight on Deborah and Barak. We spent some time this week chatting about a game that would highlight the lesson he was trying to get across. We really struggled. We finally decided that we would blindfold someone in the middle of the room and give them a balloon which they have to try and protect from someone who is trying to sneak up on the them to pop their balloon. The blindfolded person is Sisera and the person doing the sneaking is Jael... get it? It might go down well, or it could be a disaster. I mean, if I were the person blindfolded holding a balloon that could pop in my arms at any moment I think I would freak out, throw the balloon at the encroaching danger and run. Balloons popping in my ear distress me. But, I think that some of the young people could really get into it. I think we might even draw a face on the balloon... maybe extra points for stabbing him in the temple? 

Hopefully next week we can let you all know how some of our appointments went and all the things we learnt at our parenting classes. 

Prayer:
  • Protection for Ringo - in all seriousness, we don't want damage to this egg to hinder our chances of adopting in the near future. I'm not entirely sure what we're supposed to be learning from this exercise (eg. child care, division of labour, decision making?), but we would like everything to go as smoothly as possible. Please pray for all our appointments this coming week as well. 
  • This coming Friday morning is our Team Building day at FT. I do have a lot of the activities organised, but I have still to organise a lot more things, like the food. Please pray that the staff find it useful, fun and encouraging. Please pray that this activity brings an even greater sense of unity to FT's workers. 
  • This week saw the installation of our new digital fingerprint attendance system. I have no idea what they are called in English, but essentially from the start of July people have to clock in and out with their fingerprint; we are no longer using the sign-in sheets. Please pray for a smooth transition, especially since I won't be here. 
Praise:
  • The safe arrival of the team from the States. The finally got into Trinidad this morning and KC has sent me a message saying that they are settling in well. Also, praise that due to our recent, frequent trips to Social Services we have been able to arrange for these volunteers to spend one afternoon a week helping out in Trinidad's orphanage, which was something they were all interested in doing.
  • Craig's fishing trip this morning with the Men's Ministry. Attendance was low, as so many people had other things they had to do, but Daniel (Romina's husband) caught his first fish ever! Craig said those that were there had a good time. Praise that these males friendships could be cemented even further. 
  • Praise for the progress we are making with the adoption process and that, hopefully, when we return from Scotland at the end of July, we can seriously start looking for a baby to adopt having finished with all the preparatory steps and procedures.
¡Que Dios les bendiga!



Saturday, June 13, 2015

Saturday Post -- 13/06/15

A final group picture (with the camp caretaker on the left, of course).
Well, I can’t promise exploding houses, prospective pyjama parties or KD (that’s ‘Kraft Dinner’, for the hitherto unsullied) but if you give me five minutes of your time, I’ll happily tell you all about what went on last weekend, in a place where the reading of blog posts was about as likely as going the whole weekend without a mosquito bite.

Trinidad’s newly-launched Langham Preaching programme is the culmination of nine months of prayer and preparation. For me, the general outline of our sabbatical year in 2014, in terms of my thought pattern, was six months of encouragement as to the things I was learning, followed by another six months of continued encouragement, but also trying to think carefully about how my experiences at Cornhill would translate to a very different cultural context, as our return date loomed ever closer. I felt particularly challenged to address the area of Biblical preaching which, in this part of Bolivia, is severely lacking.

Eduardo (right) in action.
With that in mind, at the recommendation of friends both in Scotland and Canada, in September I got in touch with Langham’s representatives in Bolivia, who proceeded to put me in contact with Eduardo Rojas. We began a tentative discussion as to the feasibility of running a Langham Preaching course in Trinidad, and by the time we had arrived back here in January of this year, it was a case of gauging interest levels, with Eduardo more than happy to come here from his home city of Cochabamba should there be enough appetite.

Within a few weeks, having spoken to a range of groups around town, it was clear we could definitely cobble something together, and so Eduardo kindly came out for an overnight stay in late February, to speak in more depth with the interested parties as a group. From there, a local organising committee was formed, which I headed up, and despite the odd headache in the run-up to the conference (e.g., would we have anything to eat?), a group of 13 men and women from a variety of churches made it to the meeting point on that first afternoon, ready to roll.

Edwin Fernández.
It hadn’t exactly taken much thought as a committee to settle on a venue for the course. Eduardo had stipulated that the course was best delivered in some kind of retreat centre, free of outside distractions. There is only one such venue in this whole region, a municipally-owned centre about a 90-minute drive from Trinidad; indeed, it’s where our church has run its youth camps the last couple of years. Several churches here have their own camp grounds, but without the conveniences that we needed to enjoy a distraction-free time of it (though the two-hour power cut on Thursday evening rendered those advantages pretty much obsolete; mosquito nets were a non-negotiable too).

Best of all, there was next to no phone signal, making it really hard for outsiders to get in touch, though a touch frustrating when, say, trying to get one’s wife to bring out a projector cable.


The plan for the weekend was to help a group of people with a wide variety of preaching and teaching experiences to teach from a book of the Bible expositionally, in such a way that the same principles could be applied to all Scripture; this required us to get to grips with the text as a whole. And that made Philemon – one of only five single-chapter Bible books – a logical place to begin, when: a) many had never had experience of preaching expositionally; and b) we only had three days to prepare.
Getting together to 'Pray the Word'.
Each of the three mornings began with a tremendous exercise called ‘Praying the word’, which preceded the preaching of a section of Philemon, either by Eduardo or his colleague, Edwin Fernández. As a group, we would read the passage aloud three times, before closing our eyes and listening to the chairperson read each verse slowly. And after the reading of each verse, two or three minutes were given to open prayer of the kind that acted as a response to what was read. This served as a tremendous preparation both for the day ahead and for the upcoming sermon.


The rest of the day was largely given over to teaching on the various steps required to prepare an expository sermon – such as discerning the main idea behind a passage, thinking about how a letter written to a Hellenistic slave-owner applies to Trinidad in 2015, and forming a sermon body which reflects the passage structure – which we then put into practice in our groups.

Miguel-Ángel at the pulpit.
On Sunday (the final day), this work culminated in – how ever did you guess? – a sermon from each of the two groups, based on verses 17 to 25 of Philemon, the only stipulation being that the nominated preacher had to have limited experience in the area. It gave me no small thrill, then, to see our old friend Miguel-Ángel step up to the plate – correction, the pulpit. Miguel-Ángel serves on the church leadership alongside Elías and myself (he’s also the president of FT), and a more gentle, more unassuming man you would struggle to meet. Although he regularly chairs services and provides informal teaching at communion services, he has been reluctant to preach in our own church until now due to a lack of training and experience. However, in recent months, he has expressed his desire to address this, and my prayer is that his assured debut on Sunday afternoon will stand him in good stead.
Romina, also from our church, delivered the
other group's sermon.
Those two groups into which we were divided (one of six people, the other of seven) were not solely for the purpose of the training weekend. Because the course, in truth, lasts three years. The idea is that we will have two further conferences – one with a specific Old Testament focus, the other New Testament – in 2016 and 2017, about this time of year. But in the twelve months between conferences, the groups are to meet once a month as escuelitas (literally, little schools). In these escuelitas, one member of each group will give a 20-minute sermon on a specified text in Mark. But the other group members are required to arrive at the session having studied the passage in their own time, so as to be able to deliver constructive criticism of the sermon. As at the conference, the sermon is to be preceded by a session of ‘praying the word’, and some time is also to be given over to reading a book on preaching by, of all people, Eric Alexander.

The two group representatives put the finishing touches to their work.
Besides the necessary learning, there were regular breaks incorporated into the schedule (including the all-important post-lunch siesta stretch), which allowed for great opportunities to get to know the rest of the group. Having at times in the past wondered if the likes of Amanda and me were the only ones even halfway bothered about the quality of preaching in these parts, it was of great encouragement to meet other brothers and sisters with a passion for the word.

Indeed, on Sunday evening, Amanda and I accompanied Eduardo to a local church, where he had received an impromptu invite to give a sermon, and where a few other of the course’s participants were gathered. And as he preached on Acts 6:1-7, on the need to free up certain members in the church to be able to concentrate on word ministry – and the huge blessing that can bring to said church – he was met with a great response. We pray that, in the coming years, the word of God might indeed continue to increase in Trinidad.

Prayer
  • For hard work and commitment from the Langham group as a whole, with the ball now squarely in our court.
  • Our thoughts are beginning to turn to Scotland, where we will, God-willing, be spending a few weeks in July, due to Craig’s sister’s wedding. Naturally, that means there is a small mountain of tasks to be completed by the end of this month before we set off. Pray for patience.
  • Craig’s penance for his upcoming month out of Trinidad is to give six sermons/talks within the next sixteen days: three at the youth group on Saturday evenings, and three at the Sunday morning family service. Prayer appreciated this weekend as he teaches the young people tonight about Gideon, and kicks off a new series in 1 Kings on Sunday.
  • For the safe arrival of three volunteers from Seattle – Brittany, Haley and Juliana – who are due to land in Santa Cruz on Thursday, and who will be supporting the work at FT for two months

 Praise
  • For the great help and encouragement that the Langham course provided to all involved -- including Eduardo and Edwin, who were very impressed by the group. They told me they often come to the end of these courses with concerns that the group might not run with the proverbial baton; not so with this group.

¡Que Dios les bendiga!


Craig & Amanda